Parenting expert Diana Boggia has collected 80 of her “Family Matters” columns in her book “Parenting with a Purpose: Inspiring, Positive Alternatives to Reach and Teach Your Child How to Behave.”
“Rather than dread those temper tantrums, embrace them,” advises parenting expert Diana Boggia, whose writes a syndicated column for GateHouse Media.
“Consider them an opportunity to practice new skills with confidence and become empowered as you parent,” she explains. “Learn to take control in a positive way, without yelling or harsh punishment.”
With that overriding theme, Boggia has collected 80 of her “Family Matters” columns that have appeared in newspapers and online in her book, “Parenting with a Purpose: Inspiring, Positive Alternatives to Reach and Teach Your Child How to Behave.”
The result is a parenting guide that provides what promotional material calls “practical, easy-to-apply strategies to eliminate daily chaos and resolve behavioral concerns with ease.”
Columns that are included in the book discuss such topics as building communication, setting limits, providing schedules, addressing fears, developing traditions and offering encouragement.
“Throughout every column, there has been a pattern of writing about the effectiveness of positive re-enforcement and parenting with consistency,” explains the author, who called a parent’s struggle not to give in to children “one of the biggest challenges parents face every day.”
“It’s all about being firm and consistent. When you say ‘no,’ it needs to remain ‘no’ — not ‘no, no, no, no, oh, what the heck, yes.’ ”
Another critical parenting approach to dealing with the behavioral problems of their children, writes Boggia, is replacing constant criticism and correction with praise.
“Find one positive thing, and focus on that, and then the child is open to learning,” she said.
Boggia suggests that there are times when parents need to step back from an explosive family situation.
“Children cannot learn when they are having a tantrum. You never let anything go; you have to address the situation. But, your teaching opportunity is more effective outside the event.”
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Boggia, who has taught children with multiple disabilities for 15 years and has been working with parents and families for more than 28 years, said she decided to write the book to provide an effective hands-on reference for parents — “one go-to resource that parents could reference again and again in multiple situations with children of different ages.”
The author, who has three grown children, notes that the information provided in the book is for parents of all children, from toddlers to teenagers, “because the positive approaches are effective on every age.”
Anecdotes about events in her own family are mixed with information Boggia obtained from her formal training in counseling. In the end, her personal experience provides evidence supporting her advice and encouragement for parents who adopt her positive parenting techniques.
“My parenting mission was that my children would be resilient, self-confident, thoughtful, successful adults,” she said about her daughter and two sons. “And they are, so I met my mission.”
BOOKS WITH MESSAGE
Books sent with a personalized message are available through Diana Boggia’s website, www.YourPerfectChild.com.